Because they Listen...
Last night at the Mavericks game this kid came up to me that I know through some friends in Denton. He is probably 15 years old and he always comes and talks to me about computer stuff - AMD processors, Motherboards, hard drives, video cards, etc. When he left last night I thought to myself, "Why does he always come over and talk to me?" I think it is because I listen. When I was a leader at Denton Bible Church I had so many kids that would come up and want to just talk. Without being too arrogant I can say I am pretty fun to be around, but these kids weren't looking for laughs - they were looking for someone to listen.
If you look around our world you will see that everyone is hungry for attention and they will get it one way or another. I see kids whose parents are too busy working and fulfilling their own dreams and goals instead of taking the time to just stop and listen.
The people that I surround myself with, the people that I care about the most, are people who listen to what I have to say. My mom is an excellent listener. I can call her at any time and she will listen to me whether I am elated about a new job or depressed about a bad relationship - she listens. My best friend Joe and his wife Amber are my best friends because they are always so interested in my life and what I have to say and hopefully I make them feel the same way.
When you listen to someone, you validate them, you make them feel important.
If you want people to love and respect you, then always be sure to listen.
13 Comments:
What did you just say? I wasn't listening.
Just kidding!
I agree... I like your statement:
When you listen to someone, you validate them, you make them feel important.
I gotta remember to listen more.
Darn you Ben... you beat me to it.
Nice post Eddo. :) My mom is an exceptional listener too. (Goes hand in hand with being such a good gossip. ;) )
listening is one of the easiest ways to show someone you care about them and yet we often neglect to do it . . . kids want to be heard, so do us adults; eddie you did have a huge impact in so many kids lives because you were there to listen (and still are - having the impact and listening)
good words my wise friend
YES. Very true. I think that's why kids gravitate to me, too. There are so many adults who easily dismiss kids. Do they not remember what it felt like to be a kid at one time? Do they have no empathy? No compassion? I believe that I've made some serious differences in kids' lives because of the way I treat them. We're on the same page.
Silly Ben!! Yeah, I have learned that people just want to be heard. Good post. Did you hear that, Ben?
LOVE = TIME
I made one of my New Year's resolutions to take every opportunity to SHUT UP. (and listen!) :o)
A rare quote from a politician that I like: "I have two ears and only one mouth, so I tend to listen more than I speak."
Eddie, I totally agree. I love being listened to, and I am learning how important it is for me to do the same. You couldn't have said it any more perfectly: "When you listen to someone, you validate them, you make them feel important."
So perfectly true.
Well Jes, you always have interesting stuff to say and so I like listening to you... I should have a follow-up post that is entitled, "If you expect someone to listen then try to not be boring or inconsiderate of their time." Ha ha.
Oh Eddie you are SO on target here. And you're right about the kids... they know you will listen to them and that's what they like.
:-)
Wise words. Listening is hard for most folks. They get so caught up in what THEY want to say that they only listen for openings in the conversation.
Eddie,
It's always nice to hve people who actually listen. Whether it's good or bad, whether they agree or disagree, it's nice to be heard.
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