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RAGE

“Freedom Yes, Apartheid No!” “Freedom, YES, APARTHEID NO!”

I was only 6 years old when I saw the people in downtown Dallas rallying around city hall. My mother was there for an abortion protest, but my Dad had gone to drop her off and there were all these people shouting out, “Freedom, Yes, Apartheid, No.” The word meant nothing to me, sounded like nothing I’d ever heard and I couldn’t break it up into syllables and further discern it’s meaning – but now I am fully educated in Apartheid and I understand the struggles that black Africans went through in order to be treated as equals in their own land.

Apartheid only ended in 1994 after years of racism and segragation. In Africa, blacks had a curfew and had to carry around pass books in order to move about freely during the day. At any time a police officer could stop you and ask to see your pass book and if you didn’t have one you could go to jail.

There were separate eating sections for black in restaurants and separate stores for them to shop in. It was a type of legal segragtion.

Like any law, when it was put into practice it probably made perfect sense at the time.

Many black Africans were part of these savage tribes that were extremely volatile and would not tolerate each other. One of the largest tribes that still exists today is the Zulus. These were some of teh fiercest and most feared warriors and even as a kid I remember the name – Shaka Zulu. Shaka was one of the greatest rulers ever of the Zulu empire and his “influence still casts a long shadow over Zulu history today.” (Wikipedia)

After reading a book called RAGE by Wilbur Smith I was able to better understand not only Apartheid, but the cruelty of segragation and slavery. What is more, I started to become proud of my African heritage for the first time in my life.

If you dig into the history of African people you see that they were some of the greatest warriors, hunters, trackers that ever lived. They killed lions with spears and hunted down elephants and shot them with bows and arrows that you had to use your entire body to shoot. Elephants have such thick skin that in order for the arrow to kill then they would construct these bows that you would hold with your feet and then pull the string back with two hands and while lying on the ground just ten feet away they would shoot an arrow the size of a spear and pierce the elephants heart.  All of this would be down wearing nothing but a loincloth over rough terrain and unbelievable heat.

I can’t imagine being one of these brave, proud warriors and then having some man, a white man of the likes that I had never seen, come into my village with a gun that made a sound that I had never heard and then chain up and drag me and my family away after having killed many.

Anger and fear and rage, the emotions that these people must have felt. I cannot even begin to imagine the horror.

I think many African Americans are still ashamed and trying to overcome the stereotypes and the racism that still exists in America today, but that is party our educational systems fault. We are taught about slavery and emancipation, but we aren’t educated about how the Africans were kidnapped from their homes and their babies were murdered.  We aren’t told about the sexual abuse or the fact that humans were treated worse than animals.

I think that if all Americans were given a history lesson and took a moment to learn more about all the people of the world and where they have come from, then maybe we would have a new respect for our brothers and sisters. We wouldn’t make fun of the way some people talk, we’d delight in it. We’d be in awe of African Americans who excel at more than just sports.  We wouldn’t talk about our Indian gas station owners in a negative way and we wouldn’t make racist jokes about hispanics and landscaping.

We all have a story, people should take the time to hear it.

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Culture

The State Fair of Texas

The Texas State Fair opens today and will run through October 19th.

 
I can already smell the hot grease as it cooks all of my favorite foods: Corn Dogs, French Frieds, Fried Peanut Butter and Jelly, Fried Snickers, Fried Oreos, and Fried Cheesecake. Mmmm… I think I just gained a couple of pounds typing that up.
 
For me the State Fair really doesn’t mean much more than a day of gluttony. I do like to ride the giant ferris wheel and make a quick run through the car show, but other than that I’m normally satisfied with just the food.
 
I did scope out www.bigtex.com and found a couple of new events this year that I won’t want to miss.
 
IKEA CELEBRITY KITCHEN: An incredible see-it-to-believe-it kitchen by IKEA provides the backdrop for this popular event in Creative Arts. Local and regional celebrity chefs demonstrate recipes of all kinds in daily shows. FREE.
 
BMX BIKE SHOW: This is not your grandpa’s bike. See the mind-boggling all-star 720 Action Sports team perform gravity-defying feats in the Thrillway. Co-sponsored by U.S. Air Force and All-Sport. FREE
 
I love Kitchens – because you cook food in them, and I love watching BMX bikes because when I was a kid I thought I would grow up to be a BMX bike star with my totally tricked out Dyno Detour.
 
I’m planning on going this year during Texas/OU weekend… one of these years I need to actually get tickets to the game.
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Book Reviews Culture Relationships

Sex. Every Day. For One Year.

I hadn’t heard of this book 365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy until I bounced over to Edgy Mama’s site to see what she has been up to.  There she talked about some of the hate mail her latest article has received and after reading the well-written article I don’t see what the fuss is about. Who doesn’t want to read a book about a woman who gifted her husband sex every day for a year?

How many women do you know what would make this sacrifice? (If you are out there and single, please post a comment immediately and include your phone number.)

As someone who has worked a myriad of Love, Sex, Marriage conferences I must admit that when it comes to Christians and Sex there are a lot of unanswered questions. Even more, it seems that sex is  quite possibly the one thing that men and women have in common that is often misunderstood – a need for intimacy without the fear of rejection.

I’m not married so I can’t even begin to understand what happens between couples after the rings are placed on fingers and the “I Do’s” are uttered, however, it doesn’t take a Sex Therapist to tell you that when it comes to intimacy our world is f*$*K’d up – literally.

So you married people, this book seems to be a challenge to all of you out there to step it up and as the author of the book says repeatedly, “It’s not a book about sex, it’s a book about marriage.”

As far as “The Gift” is concerned, I am sure that while we’d all like to chuckle and jab, in the end it is obvious that all of us could probably learn a thing or two from Charla and Brad.

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Culture Stories

I’m Re-Releasing Marry Me… 101 Reasons

I’ve grown a lot in the last 2 years and I thought it would be fun to re-release Marry Me… 101 Reasons with new illustrations and a brand new cover – or 6.

Be looking for the new release sometime this month and hopefully  I can find a place to publish it that will be a little more affordable and a little bit sleaker than Lulu.com. We’ll see.

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Culture

So You Think You Can Dance

Are you watching this season? If not, then you are really missing some greatness. Mark and Chelsea and Katee and Joshua are my favorite couples. However, I think Will is probably the best male dancer on the show and given his versatility, I think he should win.

This is one of my favorite performances from Mark and Chelsie:

And this is Bollywood by Joshua and Katee:

Amazing.

This is Will B. Wingfield…

If you watch, who are your favorites?