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A Soap Box Moment

“Did you ever stop to think that you should have asked if I needed help to mow the lawn? You knew my foot was hurt…” I asked the question of my roommate who very rarely lifts a finger around the house. I don’t mind for the most part. We are two guys and if the house gets a little messy – no big deal. However, there are times when you would think someone would step up out of common courtesy and offer assistance.

Whenever I am confronted with an issue like the one aforementioned I have to pause and turn back time in my head and remind myself of what it was like when I lived with my parents. I remember my mom and dad saying, “Didn’t you think to do ______?” And I was all “No”, but I would have done it if they had asked. They had to drill it into me that there are some things in life that no one should have to ask you to do.

I think if people thought less of themselves and more of how to serve others around them this world would be a much better place. It’s not only about what you do, it’s also about what you shouldn’t do. You shouldn’t play your bass so loud that it annoys everyone in the neighborhood, you shouldn’t talk during movies, and you should be polite and courteous to people.

Lately, I’m feeling a little under appreciated in more than one area of my life. When this happens, normally something dramatic is sure to follow. I’ll try to keep my emotions in check this time and handle things properly. Sometimes I have to take my own advice too.

I’ll put the Soap Box away for now.

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That’s Just My Baby Mama…

Erin and I went with Roger and Jes last night to PF Changs and then to see Baby Mama. I enjoyed the movie, but I enjoyed spending time with Roger and Jes more. They recently bought a house and they’ve been confined to a strict budget and working every spare minute on their remodeling project. I’ve been very impressed with them, but even more I’m really excited that they live so close by and now we can just do stuff during the middle of the week spontaneously and how cool is that?

I’ve noticed that as i get older I really MUST have a routine. Who would have ever thought it? But it’s true. I plan things way out in advance, I schedule and I mentally prepare and then when it comes time to do things I do them well. However, spontaneous stuff with the right people can be fun and non-stressful and that is what makes it so great to be close to R&J.

Baby Mama was pretty funny and Erin and I were cackling loudly at different times. I’m actually quite aware of the fact that both of us are loud laughers. This could be a dangerous combo. But if we do end up getting married and she laughs real loud and someone says, “Who dat is?” I’ll respond with, “That’s Just My Baby Mama, Thas jus my baby Mama…”

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I Get It From My Mama

I don’t know if it is possible to have a better Mother/Son relationship than what I have with my mom. We are best friends without being clingy or needy. My mom doesn’t try to control my life and is always supportive of whatever I do. She is my favorite audience and whenever something great happens in my life, she is the first one that I call. I love you mom.

For Mother’s Day, my sisters and I, took off work on Friday and we went to a place called Kil’n Time where you paint pottery. My 2 year old nephew Aiden came with us and he was so hilarious. My mom, being the crazy grandma that she is, wanted Aiden to call her Babooska, which is Russian for Grandma. He couldn’t say Babooska and so that got shortened to just Booska which has now transformed to Booga. Mom says that sound like booger and she wants to teach him to say the Ba-Boo-Ska correctly.

Everytime I call my mom she is talking about Aiden. He stays with her a lot and she spends so much time playing with him and giving him undivided attention. Tireless she serves everyone around her and it not only impresses me, it fascinates me. It is almost as if she is a super hero with special abilities – those abilities being Super Love, Unselfishness, Kindness, Wisdom, and an abundance of Joy.

After we painted pottery we went to have a small lunch at the Greenhouse Cafe in Denton. It was so much fun just spending time with her and my sisters. I love them so much.

People often tell me that I’m fun to be around. I’m constantly humbled by the number of compliments people throw in my direction, but when I think of all the good things that make up who I am, well, I get them from my mama.

Thanks Mom for always being so cool and fun and funny. You are the best mom and grandma on the planet. I love you.

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Marry Me… Reason #102 I Will Define the Relationship

“I want you to be my girlfriend” It sounded like something I would have said in 8th grade, but you have to say it. You have to ask, you have to define the relationship. I also took this opportunity to set expectations. Relationships aren’t about being controlling or manipulative, they are about open communication and honesty. As a 32 year old man dating a 23 year old woman I felt it important to cover certain aspects of our relationship. It was difficult for me to say what I needed to say. I brooded about it, I didn’t want to sound cheesy, or stupid, but I felt that I needed to lay a foundation that one day, if we were to get married, we both could look back on and be proud of.

I did not do this with the last girl I was seeing. I asked her to be my girlfriend over email. How spineless was that? I was never proud of myself for doing that. It’s easy to ask tough questions over an impersonal medium, but I don’t think it is the right thing to do.

I remember an episode of Sex and the City (I know, it’s of the devil) and Carrie’s boyfriend broke up with her on a Post-It Note. Guys, come on, we have to do better than that.

In my last relationship I didn’t do much better, I ended things with one girl face-to-face, however, the last one I ended things over email. It was a nice email summing up things nicely – like saying, “We just aren’t a good match.” But I should have said these things in person.

Love is messy. Relationships are difficult. I have a tendency to over think things. If I am not constantly in a state of bliss then I want to run for the exit. I’m working on that now.

No matter where Erin and I end up, I want our relationship to be centered on Christ, open communication, honesty and purity. I’ve messed up a lot in the past, but from now on I hope to do it right. And hopefully, one of these days, there will be more than just 101 Reasons to Marry Me

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Snakes… Not on a Plane

Last night Erin came over for dinner and she made the mistake of asking to see my website www.corporaterambo.com . After that I insisted that she look through my entire online portfolio of both my websites created and my family photos.

I made grilled ham, turkey and smoked gruyere sandwiches and served a homemade fruit salad in my Southern Living Ramikins. Is that how you spell Ramikin Jes? (Jes also has eaten some bananas foster that she made out of these same ramikins.)

So we after dinner we go for a walk and I see something that looks like a stick and like a snake. I start to step on it and it starts moving. Erin sees it and starts trying to pull me away to safety. Image this little 5′ 5″ person trying to pull my enormous body anywhere. It was a full on example of futility. I am not scared of snakes, especially ones that are literally the size of a large earth worm, but Erin reacted cat quick like it was cobra ready to strike.

After our walk and our near death experience we went back to the house and watched LOST. She hasn’t been watching the show so I took the time to pause it on occasion to quickly fill her in with bits and pieces of back story so that hopefully she could start to catch up. I mean, she likes Michael Jackson, Karaoke, Dancing, and Me, so I can’t expect her to like LOST too, if she did then she would almost be too perfect and no one likes perfection, it makes us feel inferior and no one like to feel inferior.

So that was us last night. Nothing spectacular but a really great time.  I make a simple dinner featuring 4 of the 5 basic food groups, forced her to endure listening to my life history and viewing it in photos and I got us some exercise and entertainment all in one evening. Talk about a power date. Guys take notes cause I am even impressing myself.

This weekend is mostly a guys weekend and so I won’t see Erin until Sunday for church which is nice because we are going to start going together and that will be nice.