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RAGE

“Freedom Yes, Apartheid No!” “Freedom, YES, APARTHEID NO!”

I was only 6 years old when I saw the people in downtown Dallas rallying around city hall. My mother was there for an abortion protest, but my Dad had gone to drop her off and there were all these people shouting out, “Freedom, Yes, Apartheid, No.” The word meant nothing to me, sounded like nothing I’d ever heard and I couldn’t break it up into syllables and further discern it’s meaning – but now I am fully educated in Apartheid and I understand the struggles that black Africans went through in order to be treated as equals in their own land.

Apartheid only ended in 1994 after years of racism and segragation. In Africa, blacks had a curfew and had to carry around pass books in order to move about freely during the day. At any time a police officer could stop you and ask to see your pass book and if you didn’t have one you could go to jail.

There were separate eating sections for black in restaurants and separate stores for them to shop in. It was a type of legal segragtion.

Like any law, when it was put into practice it probably made perfect sense at the time.

Many black Africans were part of these savage tribes that were extremely volatile and would not tolerate each other. One of the largest tribes that still exists today is the Zulus. These were some of teh fiercest and most feared warriors and even as a kid I remember the name – Shaka Zulu. Shaka was one of the greatest rulers ever of the Zulu empire and his “influence still casts a long shadow over Zulu history today.” (Wikipedia)

After reading a book called RAGE by Wilbur Smith I was able to better understand not only Apartheid, but the cruelty of segragation and slavery. What is more, I started to become proud of my African heritage for the first time in my life.

If you dig into the history of African people you see that they were some of the greatest warriors, hunters, trackers that ever lived. They killed lions with spears and hunted down elephants and shot them with bows and arrows that you had to use your entire body to shoot. Elephants have such thick skin that in order for the arrow to kill then they would construct these bows that you would hold with your feet and then pull the string back with two hands and while lying on the ground just ten feet away they would shoot an arrow the size of a spear and pierce the elephants heart.  All of this would be down wearing nothing but a loincloth over rough terrain and unbelievable heat.

I can’t imagine being one of these brave, proud warriors and then having some man, a white man of the likes that I had never seen, come into my village with a gun that made a sound that I had never heard and then chain up and drag me and my family away after having killed many.

Anger and fear and rage, the emotions that these people must have felt. I cannot even begin to imagine the horror.

I think many African Americans are still ashamed and trying to overcome the stereotypes and the racism that still exists in America today, but that is party our educational systems fault. We are taught about slavery and emancipation, but we aren’t educated about how the Africans were kidnapped from their homes and their babies were murdered.  We aren’t told about the sexual abuse or the fact that humans were treated worse than animals.

I think that if all Americans were given a history lesson and took a moment to learn more about all the people of the world and where they have come from, then maybe we would have a new respect for our brothers and sisters. We wouldn’t make fun of the way some people talk, we’d delight in it. We’d be in awe of African Americans who excel at more than just sports.  We wouldn’t talk about our Indian gas station owners in a negative way and we wouldn’t make racist jokes about hispanics and landscaping.

We all have a story, people should take the time to hear it.

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Observations Politics Relationships Stories

Celebrity Couples

John, Jackson and Alison

Look at John’s family, it makes me want to punch him in the mouf for being so lucky.

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The Arquette’s aren’t nearly as pretty as John and Alison pictured above, but I’ve always had a crush on Monica from Friends – even though in this picture she looks a little mousy.

torianddeanspelling

Okay, Dean and Tori are a beautiful couple. Tori never looked so good. I loved 90210, Kelly and Donna and the Peach Pit.

billandhillaryweddingphoto

Hey, It’s Bill and Hillary Clinton… Couldn’t you just picture Hillary in a bathing suit by the beach reading a book in the Hamptons? It’d be one of those 1950’s bathing suits but bill would be wearing a speedo and surreptitiously checking out other women not realizing that Hillary has it all, brains and looks.

Mcain Wedding

Guess Who… it’s Republican Presidential Candidate and his wife. Look at that bonnet she is wearing, it’s very demure and Little House on the Prarie – but I like it, who didn’t like Laura Ingalls?

 Governor Sarah Palin

And lastly, the beautiful Governor Palin who was Miss Wasilla a long time ago, whatever that means. This photo is from the beauty pageant. She’s what I’d call “A fresh-faced beauty”. I mean, who wouldn’t want to take this girl home to mama and then spend a lifetime with her?

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Shopping Stories

Pressed is better than Percolated

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One morning while I was in Minnesota my buddy Eric made a big pot of coffee using a coffee press. I’ve never really understood why someone would use a coffee press or how it actually worked and so I asked him, “Hey, what’s so great about a coffee press?”

“The flavor in coffee is in the fat and when you use a filter it captures a lot of the fat and you lose some of the flavor.”

“How does the coffee press work?” I asked, further intrigued by his knowledge of coffee.

“Well, you just grind your beans, then you boil your water. Put the grounds in the press, add hot water and then press the grounds down to the bottom.”

It was such a simple process, plus it looked much cooler than a standard boring coffee pot.

Eric sells coffee at his little side business called Spunky Monkey Coffee and he has a blog where he states, “I have a small coffee roasting business that allows me to introduce people to regional coffees from around the world and shed light on the diversity of flavors within regional coffee.”

I like a good cup of coffee especially when shared with good friends who also enjoy quality food and beverages.

I don’t have a coffee press yet, but I plan on picking one up this Fall because I love coffee in the winter.  If you want to take a look at some nice ones check out Bodum’s selection.  

 

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Memoirs Stories

I listened…

On Saturday after Ultimate Frisbee I met up with my family in Denton for some afternoon bowling. I’m not a fan of bowling. It’s a slow sport that requires me to wait for other people and for that slow machine to get my ball back to me and reset the pins. Tap, tap, tap goes my fingers – I’M WAITING. 

However, I have to remind myself constantly that my life isn’t always about me getting exactly what I want and doing everything that I want to do. Ugh, if only…  So I’m bowling along with my sisters and actually having a good time with only a mild amount of effort. My dad isn’t playing but watching and I go over to talk to him and he starts telling me how to bowl better. 

Firstly, I didn’t really care how well I did, I was just there for my family, but I listened to him because he was taking the time to share something with me. I was actually delighted that he was there watching me and even more delighted that he was telling me how to correct my throw. 

I’ve been reading these Wilbur Smith books and there are always these amazing Father/Son relationships where the dad takes time to teach his sons how to build or hunt or fight. I envy those people in the books because my dad and I didn’t have that kind of relationship when I was a kid. When he taught me how to do something it was usually how to mow or weed eat and I didn’t want to learn how to do either. 

But now I’m older and my dad and I have a much better relationship and so instead of telling him that I didn’t care about how well I did, I sat and listened with rapt attention. Afterwards I implemented some of his suggestions and it wasn’t long before I was bowling strikes and dad was giving me the thumbs up. 

I was proud of myself not for getting the strikes but for being mature and listening and realizing, finally, after 32 years that my dad’s way of showing his love is teaching and I allowed him to love me by listening. 

My dad is 73 years old and will be 74 in November. He won’t be around forever and so I’m not going to act like he is. I’ve spent a good portion of my life lamenting my past, but I won’t let it destroy my future…

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Relationships Stories

Babies, Babies, Babies

I never had a flesh and blood brother, but I’ve had some brothers in this life that are probably closer than an actual brother. Strangely, 3 of them have wives that are pregnant and due within a month of each other – due April and May of next year.

The Meadows
The Cribbies
The Millers

Congrats everyone, I’m hoping for boys across the board!