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When Will I Become a Butterfly?

For the past few years I feel like I’ve been trapped in a cocoon and I’m struggling to GET. OUT.

Every time I feel like I am about to have a breakthrough – financially, physically, spiritually, I always seem to have a large setback. Bills and injuries seem to descend upon me at the penultimate moment, the moment that they will be the most devastating or crushing. Not only to my actual person, but also to my emotional psyche.

The constant failures have worn me down. I used to be this mountain of determination, I’m now a nice flat plain of apathy. I still try, I just don’t have high expectations of success for myself. What I do now is I try to have small victories instead of big ones. I think that is what life has become for me. Every day I try to have some small victory. I try not to buy a Starbucks coffee, I try to go to the gym, I try to eat healthy, I try to read my Bible. I try to pray.

People often ask me, “Why aren’t you married?” and the main reason I think is because I don’t feel I’m at my best for someone at the moment. I wouldn’t want to marry me in my present state. My affairs aren’t all in order, my priorities aren’t where they need to be. My career goals are still unsettled. Those are things I can fix before I settle down.

There are days that I have small victories and I feel that a series of small changes will one day turn into a great accomplishment. Every day I try to become a better person and one day I will burst out of this cocoon and fly, but for now, I’ll continue to struggle and grow and in the end, I’ll be stronger for it.

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Weddings, Weddings, Weddings…

I just DJ’d a wedding last night and I’ve got another one to do today. This isn’t as easy as you might think because when weddings are so close you start to forget which bride asked you to “be sure and play some Pat Green” or “Don’t play any Single Ladies by Beyonce!”

I take lots of notes and I bring them with me to the reception, but when you are in the heat of the moment going from punk to funk all while taking requests and interacting with the crowd it’s hard to stop and look at your notes.

For some reason last night I felt like I was in some weird time warp while playing music from multiple generations. Perhaps it was the myriad of lights I had going that were whirring at a frenetic pace that made me feel as if I was tripping on acid, or it could have been the music being so loud next to me or the fact that I cut my finger very deeply and lost about a pint of blood. I’m not sure what it was but I was off my game all night.

Microphone feedback is never good, but to have feedback twice for me is unheard of. Couple that with strange volume issues and general lethargy and you have a recipe for disaster. Fortunately, I held myself together and at the end of the night I felt like I had done a good job. Did I rock the party clean off their feet? Yes and No. But I don’t always consider that to be my problem. Some groups aren’t as wild as others and not every party is going to be an off-the-charts success (but most of mine are).

Tonight I have wedding number two and I expect that it will be a little more rocking since the reception starts at five and people will most likely be more awake and lively. We’ll see how it goes. What’s going on in your world?

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Indecent Exposure

Lately I’ve been extremely interested in human behavior and human sexuality. What makes us do the things we do? Attraction is so bizarre and so unique and yet so general. I just don’t get it. I often wonder if the human sex drive wasn’t such that it is, if humans would cease to exist.

Imagine our ancestors without running water, living in tents or houses without soap or deodorant. Men sometimes didn’t takes baths for a year at a time and who knows what women did for feminine products.

So today I received this Crime Watch Bulletin and it got me wondering why as humans we do some of the stupid things we do. This kid is a teenager exposes himself to a young girl. Apparently there is some sexual thrill for this, but what causes someone to want to do this? It seems that most odd sexual behaviors are the product of something that has happened to us, but I can’t see what could cause someone to want to expose themselves?

CRIME WATCH BULLETIN
PLANO POLICE DEPARTMENT

The following event was reported to the Plano Police Department.

OFFENSE NUMBER: 2009-205509
OFFENSE TYPE: Indecent Exposure
LOCATION/STREET: Green Oaks and Cherokee Trail (Spring Creek Pkwy/Custer Rd, Mapsco 658 C)
DATE: 10/14/09 (Wednesday) TIME: Between 6:00pm-7:00pm

DESCRIPTION: On 10/14/09 a female walking in the area of Green Oaks and Cherokee Trail observed the suspect vehicle drive up to her location at which time the suspect made a comment to the female, opened the vehicle door and then exposed himself.  The female left the location and contacted the police department.  The suspect left in an unknown direction.

If you have any information regarding this offense please contact the Plano Police Department.

SUSPECT INFORMATION: White male, late teens, brown hair, pierced right ear.

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Perhaps We All Have Multiple Personality Disorder

I just finished reading “Switching Time” by Dr. Richard Baer. It Blew. My. Mind. Do not read this if you are afraid of course language. I don’t mean to be graphic, but in retelling this true story there is no way to convey the story any other way.

People who suffer from Multiple Personality Disorder or MPD, have normally suffered something tragic in their lives that cause them to split mentally in order to protect themselves. Don’t we all do that when we are in stressful situations? We become someone who we aren’t, sometimes only momentarily, but for a brief moment we don’t even recognize ourselves. The difference is we are aware of this behavior when it happens, but what if we were suddenly forced into extreme situations repeatedly – how would we handle it?

In the book “Switching Time” Karen, the patient with 17 multiples inside her has suffered in ways that I am not sure any human can bear:

1. Gang Rape by people in her neighborhood and the priest at her church
2. Satanic rituals which involved extreme physical torture
3. Pins stuck into her body from the time she was 1 year old
4. Forced to eat excrement
5. Molested by her father and grandfather
6. Prostituted out for money
7. Forced to watch pornography
8. Fish Hooks stuck in her chest
9. Face burned with curling iron
10. Forced into ice-cold water with blood in it and then stuck in a coffin for hours
11. Multiple items inserted into her body cavities including hammers, hangers and waterhoses
12. Religious torture and brainwashing
13. Electrical shocks
14. Tied to the bed naked and beaten
15. Forced to steal and then punished for stealing

I read this book in 3 days and could not put it down. I’m amazed at the mind’s ability to protect itself. Each of Karen’s distinct personalities had traits of their own. Some were crippled, some had allergies and vision problems and when she’d take medication it was effective on some of the personalities but not on all of them. One of the personalities claimed to be able to make Karen’s body temperature rise at will and for rashes to appear.

Each personality had a function that helped Karen to cope with her life. One personality handled school work and one could draw while others would cook, clean or drive. The personalities were not limited to female either. Karen had 4 male personalities along with her 13 female personalities.

When we were growing up my family was very spiritual. We were Christians who believed in demons and demon possession and we were taught that MPD was a form of demon possession. After reading this book I’m not so sure this is true. I’m sure that in all of our lives there are things of a spiritual nature happening that we do not understand, but are all multiple personality disorders demon possession?

In Karen’s case she did not turn against God despite this ordeal. She was told repeatedly that she was evil and her tormentors played Choir hymns while they tortured her. At her communion her father took her into the back room in her white dress and stuck a cross into her vagina. A priest molested her and forced her to make child pornography films.

What is astounding throughout this story is that Karen was able to fool people into believing that she was okay. She protected her attackers and one of her personalities was always happy and played dumb when she was asked about her injuries. Even with a child denying how she was injured, you would think that her teachers would have suspected foul play and done something to intervene and help Karen.

At the end of the story, Karen writes a brief message to the reader telling us to watch out for children that have a glazed look in their eyes and seem to be disconnected from society. When a child feels that they can’t talk to someone about their problems they have no where else to turn but inward.

Dr. Baer’s story is a compelling and despite the dark topic you are carried on this emotional wave of hope. Despite Karen’s constant desire to kill herself, which is something I think many people would have done in her case, she presses on and after 18 years of therapy finally becomes a whole person.

I’m impressed by Dr. Baer’s patience and as someone who wants to enter into counseling, I found this book very educational. Sitting all day and listening to problems can be emotionally draining and physically exhausting. Dr. Baer gets a divorce during the time that he is treating Karen and despite the fact that he rarely mentions the toll his therapy with Karen is taking, it is evident that is must be destructive on multiple levels to his own emotional health.

I recommend Switching Time to anyone who wants to further understand the power of the human psyche and the impact we can have on people when we are willing to work with them and be patient. As Americans I don’t know many people who could suffer through 18 weeks of intense listening and understanding let alone 18 years. I have a new respect for all counselors after reading this book and I can’t help but applaud both Dr. Baer and Karen for this remarkable recovery.

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Cheeseburgers with Eddo

I’m thinking of writing a new book called “Cheeseburgers with Eddo”. It will be a true story based on a series of people who come by my house, pick me up and then take me out for a cheeseburger.

We’ll got to places like Angry Dog and Twisted Root all in the hopes of curing my insatiable need to consume the perfect cheesey burger goodness.

The super sweet part of this deal is you get to eat lunch with me and then possibly get to be in my novel which will most likely be #1 on the New York Times best seller list.

Drop me a comment and let me know when you’ll be by to pick me up.